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Emily McCombs Relives Sexual Assault Ordeal Rapist Tries Friend ON FACEBOOK

07 Feb

 

It was a trauma that she had spent more than a decade trying to come to terms with, and a Facebook request brought it all back to the surface.

One night in 1997, Emily McCombs found herself in a neighbourhood warehouse when three males made her perform oral sex on them.

Then, one of them raped Ms McCombs, who was only 14 years old at the time.

Years later, the memories of that night were blurred, with many details lost in an alcohol and drug-induced blackout.

Today, she’s the managing editor and writer at xoJane.com, a blog about relationships and sex.

In 2010, some 13 years after that grim night, Ms McCombs was shocked to find the man who raped her had sent her a Facebook friend request.

While she admitted that her first impulse was to close her computer and ‘quietly relocate somewhere in the desert,’ she had unanswered questions, so after exchanging several messages, she called him.

The two spoke for an hour, starting with some basic chit chat, but moving to the particulars of that horrible night in 1997.She transcribed some of the conversation on a blog post she published last year.

As the man, who was not identified offered to help in ‘any way I can,’ Miss McCombs left him with these parting words:

‘Just take care of your daughters. Just love them so they value themselves. And teach your son, too. That no means no’.

While she admits the conversation was upsetting at times, it ‘actually did more to help me process and get over being raped than the thousands of hours I’ve spent discussing it with mental professionals’.

And, as Ms McCombs writes, she never accepted the friend request.

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Posted by on February 7, 2012 in FML

 

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